cheating in the grove

Muller and Teresa's fave snog songs remind me back to when I first found a boyfriend was cheating on me.

Not so nice a topic but part of life as a teenager during our grove days.

Still remember the first time I found out. I was 19 - lucky to have to wait that long or stupid not to realise earlier!!!

I still remember you C@*i# (better not say his name). For a long time I was so devastated and thought I must have been such a horrible person and he must have hated me so much to do that to me. I must say his friends were annoyed with him and took my side. They still included me in the group and most of the time left him out - for ages.

Anybody any cheating stories out there. Be honest. After all we were only young wans!!

Floyd I'm an ex-Chanel College Grover and I think I might know the parties involved in your story ... doh!

My missus who's an ex-Manor House Lady burst my bubble about girls intentions when she told me that her and the mates used to have competitions to see who could "stick the lips" on the most blokes in the Grove. Had to pretend to be disgusted hahaha.

Then again wasnt their School song:

"We are the Manor Girls,
We wear our hair in curls,
We wear our fathers shirts,
instead of our skirts.
We neither smoke nor drink,
thats what the teachers think,
And when it comes to boys,
we treat them like toys"

Any of you there deny or confirm??

Great topic....

I do remember when I was about 16 I was going out with a girl from the southside, who needless to say never frequented the Grove. I never actually "went out" with someone at the Grove (more temporary moments at slow sets!), and when I went to the last reunion I was telling the wife that I had always wanted to be one of those guys who walked into the grove holding a girl's hand and saluted all his mates like a king - "look what I've got kinda thing". But I'm not scarred by it. 

We had been going out about five months or so and it was obvious that neither of us was really into the other any more. But rather than do anything about it, we both just ignored each other and hoped someone somewhere would sort it out.

anyway, during this phase I headed off to the Grove as per usual, but this time determined to "do the dirt" seeing that I wasn't "really" going out with her. But I felt so guilty that I didn't. And fair enough with that sitting here now, but my big memory was feeling so "profound". And thinking about what this meant, man. And how deep it all was, and that there really was a meaning of life. When I see teenagers these days being so serious about small things, I sometimes think back to moments like that! And I didn't even drink at the time, so it wasn't lost in a cloud of alcohol....

whippersnapper wrote: and when I went to the last reunion I was telling the wife that I had always wanted to be one of those guys who walked into the grove holding a girl's hand and saluted all his mates like a king - "look what I've got kinda thing". But I'm not scarred by it.

Honestly 'snapper, wasn't that big a deal. We just acknowledged the salutes and got on with it.

 

Well interesting Topic Irish Mammy. Certainly not an easy one to discuss. I can think of one situation which I ended up in which was I was very hurt by at the time.

Lets see. I was going out with a girl for about 2 months. We met at the Grove one night and then started going out. Part of the ritual was going to the Grove most weeks. We had arranged to go one particular saturday when I got a phone call from one of her mates, saying that she'd meet someone else. I went into denial mode and arrived anyway thinking it wasn't true. However, after a while, she arrived in, arm in arm with the new fella. I was pretty pissed off - I mean the sheer cheek of it - had not even the decency to tell me herself !

To end the story, about four months later I got another call - the new boyfriend had dumped her and she needed a shoulder to cry on ! What kind of muppet did she think I was ? Swings and roundabouts I was thinking.

That never happened to me in the Grove years, I went out with a guy for a few months and we got on well, mad about each other for that time anyway. It was near the end of our time going to the Grove that we got together . However, he did get off with one of my Best Friends whilst with me. I broke up with him, not for that reason alone though and I am still friends with my mate,although it's always been in the back of my mind what she and he did.

Maybe  I just didn't ever see him with anyone while we were at the Grove ( he was very popular with the ladies and lads alike, they thought he was gorgeous and men thought he was cool). I never noticed him missing during the night or anything ...

He actually made the Grove really exciting for me because like someone was saying in a post up above this one...It was great to walk in with him holding my hand or arm around me and looking proud to be with me.... What a feeling And because he was kinda the catch of the place at the time

My god so many cheaters on this site I am deeply deeply shocked at ye all

Yes ur rite Bruns those of yoy cheated on have my full sympathy the others wot can I say no excuse

Welcome to the site,Monarch-it's not all gloomy here-honestly!

Getting back to this cheating thing.  I remember in the very early days of the grove this lad I knew who was quite the looker coming over to me and asking me to dance.  In the midst of it all he kissed me.  I was made up and then he said "you know I can't go out with you"....... "why not say's I" in all my youth.  "Because I'm going out with someone"...The fecker must of thought he was making my day.  Done and dusted there and then I walked off. No way was I getting involved in that lark.